Hello and welcome to forfouring
Pads disks wheel bearings are interchangable , all normal forfours and colts have 256mm fronts, while brabus and czt have 282mm. Rears are all the same across the board, with 250mm discs where fitted (some had drums)
Struts and anti roll links and bars are not, as they differ in design. Colt use the brabus style short links that connect the ARB to the whishbone, whereas normal forfours link to the strut. Colt struts are missing the necessary mounting point for the Anti Roll Links, but are otherwise identical. So you can use smart struts on a colt but not vice-versa..
The stiff gearchange comes from a stiff selector as previously stated by Brabs.
When bleeding, start with the wheel furthest from the brake fluid reservoir.
I would not fit other oil filters, if you do motorway miles than that's very good and not at all hard on the engine or the oil. Short trips are harmful for the engine oil, because it does not get up to temp it can't get rid of water and cannot properly clean or suspend and trap contaminants. I've used the MANN W67 (not w67/1) filter for the 9 years i've had the car, changing the oil once a year or every 20.000kms and i'm over 240.000kms with no problems (and at 13 years old still on 0w40 "New Life" oil).